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Tuesday, September 9, 2014

Wait, you're having a DRY wedding?!

Yep, folks. You read that right. Our wedding will be a dry wedding. For many good reasons (we think) but at the end of the day, the best reason is this:

Because it's OUR wedding.

Let me start this off by saying we did originally plan to have alcohol at our reception. It would only be beer and wine, in galvanized tubs, and what you got is what you got. No special requests, no orders. Sorry, I'm not made of money. And I'll also say this, I have absolutely nothing against a wedding that does serve alcohol. I love a good rum and coke to celebrate the nuptials.

As we began to really sit down in the beginning stages of wedding planning, and hash out the details, we began to realize some things. If you're new around these parts, you'll need to read about our story to start a ministry in Quincy. Moving on, we realized that if we're starting a ministry in Quincy, and we're wanting to be real with people in the fact that we have come a long way from our past, then maybe providing the means for irresponsible people (gasp, those exist??) to get absolutely drunk (because hey, go big or go home right, and it's free) may not be the best starting platform for our ministry.

Call us old-fashioned, call us goody goody, call us Jesus freaks. At the end of the day, we're paying for you to eat and drink, be appreciative of what you're receiving you heathen (I kid, slightly).

Another reason that is pretty obvious, is money. I would so much rather invest the money into really good food and cupcakes rather than beer and wine that you will most surely be urinating and possibly barfing up in just a few short hours. Seriously, barf up the dadgum good fried chicken before you lose the Bud Light. I digress.

Finally, probably one of the best reasons for me, what if a friend or family member drank themselves into a drunk stupor, drove home at the wee hours on these back country roads where the suicidal deer like to play chicken, and died. I know, I'm being slightly melodramatic but it's not far-fetched by any means. We've had that happen to friends and ya'll, I simply could not live with myself knowing that I had helped aid that person into a drunk stupor to only get behind the wheel, and lose their life.

Not happenin' captain.

Like I said earlier, at the end of the day it is our big day and we're standing by the decision we've made. We have received some push back from folks and honestly, I just give them our reasons (which I would like to add that we don't owe anybody reasons) and then inform them if being drunk is much more important to them than celebrating the marriage of 2 people, by all means, go drink your heart out in a bar. You're one less mouth I have to feed buddy.

I  hope this didn't come off as a rant. Just simply a perspective on a subject of our wedding. We honestly cannot wait to celebrate our marriage! Even if it's just us chickens dancing to the beat of Alan Jackson or the Allman Brothers while we sip on our sweet tea, I couldn't ask for anything more. And while I'm at it, I'm going to grab me a nice cold beer to celebrate our decision to have a dry wedding. How do you like them apples, heathens?? Again, I kid (on the heathens thing).


  1. While I totally understand no beer and wine....butttt Kellllyyyyyyyy!!! HA! Maybe I will be pregnant by then so it won't matter anyways. Question - can I swap the alcohol calories for cake calories? If so, then I could give a rat's you know what about alcohol. Just need a confirm there on the cal swap LOL

    Can't wait to see your gorgeous self marry the man of your dreams!

    1. I'm seriously dying laughing over this, Ash! hahaha!!!!

  2. We had a dry wedding, too (for plenty of random reasons) and I know I'm biased but holy cow, it was the best night of my life. Everyone partied SO hard, and if we were drunk on anything, it was too much cake and mountain dew. I'm glad you're sticking to your guns on this one!

  3. Kelly it is YOUR wedding and you two are the only people who have to be happy with the decisions that go into it! Anyone who is miffed can just go and sulk in a corner lol. I didn't drink anything at my wedding - or at the most recent wedding we just went to - and my husband doesn't drink at all - but we have a BLAST whenever we're partying! I've seen a lot of embarrassing displays at open bar weddings and that's no fun for anyone who does it / sees it / remembers it. It's a celebration of who the two of you are and if you don't want drink to be a part of that, I would hope everyone who matters wholly supports your decision. I CANT WAIT TO SEE PHOTOS!!!!! :)

  4. We had planned a dry wedding too. No alcohol. It was exactly what we wanted and (shockingly) not a single person protested. AT the actual reception my brother and sister walked in with TONS of alcohol and beer. I was upset and they told me that they were "saving my wedding because people drink at weddings." They also told me that was their wedding gift to me and their contribution to my big day. I was FURIOUS but moved on because I didn't want my big day spoiled by it. Our relationships are still very tense over that though.

  5. YES girl!! I love how you are doing YOU no matter what!! This is your day! Tell em! Plus good point, how would they get home on the crazy back roads/??

  6. I cannot stop laughing over Ash's comment hahaha!

    Oh Kel! I think you guys need to do what you need and want to do! It's your day and at the end of that day, the people who come to your wedding should truly be there to celebrate the two of you - NOT to drink free alcohol. (Plus, there's CAKE! ha!) XOXO

  7. Seriously, a huge KUDOS to you for sticking to your guns, no apologies. You're right. It is your wedding. Not anybody else's and they can be as upset as they want, but goshdangit this is your day and you can do whatever you want with it and no one should say a dang thing. I get really really upset when people complain about someone else's wedding decisions. We all (mostly) only have one wedding, and it's the ONE DAY we should do absolutely whatever our heart decisions without getting questioned for it. Can we not just respect that?! I just can't tolerate that whatsoever. Like, when you have your wedding day, you can do what you want then, but this is my day and shut up about it. I think your rant is 100% warranted, and I'm so happy to see you stand firm in what you want to do. You go girl.

  8. Our wedding wasn't dry. But we hardly drank because we had a band that was a HUGE hit and no one wanted to do anything but dance. I wished I'd had a glass of wine because it means I would have slowed down from the fuss of meeting and greeting, but the evening was so much madness, that it was all just a blur of hugs and kisses and well wishes and dancing. No one will miss it, unless they want to. Which means they're party poopers anyway! :)

  9. I think you made a great decision. At the end of the day it is YOUR wedding and you're right you're the one paying for it and you don't have to concern yourself with others opinions on this matter. Especially because the people who do attend should be there to celebrate your relationship and marriage and not to get drunk. You go girl, you are a great role model to the youth. I'm sure the kids in your ministry would be very proud of you.

    --Me And My Mini Me

  10. My husband and I got married here, and we couldn't have found a better venue! It is so beautiful, with dark hardwood floors. Wrought iron chandeliers and some really cool artwork on the big pocket doors at one end of the room.
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  11. Hey I think it's YOUR wedding and you should do what Y'ALL want :) There shouldn't be any push-back. I never understand why there is any push-back on anything for a wedding if you aren't the bride or groom but I guess that's just people. I think those are great reasons! We did at our wedding and it barely was touched! Haha. Our co-workers paid for all of it which was super awesome. There was a ton left so it made me feel better about people not drinking too much! :)

  12. Wow good for you girl! I don't think I could ever do a dry wedding, but it would probably be for the best with as much drinking as my family does..

  13. We didn't have a dry wedding, but my husband and I both chose not to drink which was the best decision I've ever made- it allowed us to be fully present for the whole experience. I think your reasons are great though (not that my opinion should matter since it's YOUR wedding)! We had a relatively small wedding and everything was kind of untraditional so we didn't get any push-back from people but you should definitely just ignore the haters- I mean if it's going to impact their ability to celebrate your awesomeness as a couple that much maybe they should just stay home!!