I'm learning

I can honestly say, with all my heart, this marriage gig has been quite the diggity bomb experience. Granted, we haven't been married quite as long as some of you lucky ducks out there but nevertheless, I think we've made it last longer than Kim Kardashian's marriage to whatever-his-name-was.

 

I fully thought that going into our marriage, that I had a pretty good idea on how to live with Hunter, how to fight with Hunter (clue: disagree with respect), how to put up with his dirty clothes everywhere. I kept thinking, "Ya'll, I've got this!"

 

Uhm, yea. About that. I was totally not ready for sharing!!

 

Hear me out, er, read me out. I come from a good sized family; I'm the oldest of 4 so I get the whole sharing is caring (except germs, that's just not nice). Even with dating Hunter for 3.5 years before the big I do, I was used to splitting my time between his and mine. Key word: splitting.

 

Now, when it comes to holiday plans, financial plans (I'm the bill payer here), and plans for the future, I have had to really stop and remember that we are attached. I can't just go gallivanting off to Georgia for my family's Thanksgiving and leave him in the dust to figure out stuff himself. Okay, well technically I can but that's not very fun.

 

The good news is that we both love the spouse's families so much. The bad news is that we both love the spouse's families so much. So trying to decide where to do the holidays has kind of been a toss up for the both of us. I guess the good news is that whatever we decide, it's a win-win because we're spending time with people we love and with the person we love most.

 

Learning to ask my husband what he wants to do, rather than assuming and making decisions for him, has been something that I'm slowly but surely beginning to grasp. I hope. So Hunter, here's to many more years of making decisions on how to spend our holidays, trying to decide between tires for your truck and all the many shoes I need want, what to name our kids, who takes the dog out to use the bathroom, and all the millions of other things we will encounter. I'm so glad it's you I'm making those decisions with.