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Tuesday, April 15, 2014

ESFJ- Extraverted (E), Observant (S), Feeling (F), Judging (J)


The other day, Shane at Whispering Sweet Nothings introduced us to the Meyers Briggs personality test. Of course, I just couldn't help myself and clicked my way on over to their website to check it out. Here's what I got:

ESFJ strengths

  • Always look for win-win situations. ESFJ personalities value harmony and do their best to avoid conflict wherever possible. They are natural team players, trying to get along with everyone.
  • Very loyal. ESFJs value relationships and stability very highly and try hard not to disturb the status quo unless absolutely necessary. This makes them very loyal and trustworthy employees and partners.
  • Sensitive and warm. ESFJ personalities seek harmony and care deeply about other people’s feelings, being careful not to offend or hurt anybody.
  • Know how to connect to people. ESFJs are social and friendly individuals who have no difficulties with small talk or following other social rituals. People with this personality type also tend to have a strong need to belong, e.g., by playing an active role in the local community.
  • Take their duties very seriously. ESFJ personalities tend to be responsible and reliable, paying a lot of attention to their duties and responsibilities. They can be very hard workers, often putting their duties above their own needs.
  • Good with practical matters. People with the ESFJ personality type have excellent practical skills and do not mind dealing with routine, daily tasks. They will always make sure that people close to them are cared for.

ESFJ weaknesses

  • Often obsessed with their social status. ESFJs tend to have a very strong need to be seen as responsible, respected and successful individuals—they will do everything they can to increase their social status and influence.
  • May be inflexible. ESFJs place a lot of importance on traditions and may often worry too much about what other people see as acceptable. Consequently, they are likely to be very careful, or even critical, when it comes to unconventional methods or non mainstream views.
  • Unwilling to improvise. People with the ESFJ personality type dislike venturing outside their comfort zone and taking bold steps, usually out of fear of being (or appearing) different.
  • Very vulnerable to criticism. ESFJs strongly dislike conflicts and criticism. They can get very defensive and hurt if someone (especially a person close to them) criticizes their habits, ideas, or favorite traditions.
  • Often too selfless. ESFJ personalities may care and worry so much about others that their attention will become overwhelming and ultimately unwelcome. This is also likely to lead to the neglect of their own needs.
  • May be needy. ESFJs need to know that they are liked and their efforts are valued. Consequently, people with this personality type may often fish for compliments or try to attract other people’s attention.

I felt that this personality test pretty much hit the nail on the head in the majority of the areas. After looking over the strengths and weaknesses, the only thing I could think of was

"Dang, I sound like a dog. Loyal, takes duties seriously, needy... Oh man."
But in all seriousness, the test did seem to be pretty accurate. Go try it for yourself! What did you get? Do you feel like it was accurate?

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  1. I am an ESFJ too! It is completely accurate for me. I am always the person you want in your corner and indifference is my kryptonite.

    1. ME TOO! Through and through! I'm reading a book for marriage counseling called Try to Understand Me and it's about how couples' personality types work together...very interesting!

  2. I got ISFJ - so we are pretty similar except that I am more introverted...which I agree with LOL - you know how I am. I think I might have to write a post about this too :)

  3. I am almost the complete opposite. I'm "The Idealist" aka INFP (Introverted, intuitive, feelings, perceiving) pretty bang on :)

    1. That's awesome! I love all the different personalities that are out there. It just proves that the Big Man has a unique imagination. Thanks for stopping by!

  4. We're so similar! I bet we'd be fast friends IRL :)